I’m here to remind you to breathe. To pause. To take it all in. To remember the reason for this special day.
Don’t let the wedding industry madness overtake you. Remember, it is just ONE day of your life and there will always be more ideas out there on Pinterest. Welcome new ideas and additions to a point, but when it feels overwhelming remember that it’s okay to say that you’ve reached your quota of creativity.
Don’t let people get to you. Family will push their opinions on you out of love and strangers will try to fill your mind with marriage doubt, but just keep your eyes on the man you love. There are no PERFECT answers. Make a decision, move on, and remember it will ALL WORK OUT. It always does.
Don’t try to fit a mold that doesn’t fit you. All brides have different desires, dreams, and expectations, which makes each individual wedding so beautiful in its own way. Don’t compare your ideas to the white and fluffy “perfection” of someone else’s. Trust your gut—nobody knows you and your fiancé better than yourselves.
Don’t forget to show yourself grace. Don’t worry if you can’t make it to the gym as much as you normally do or if some commitments have to take a step back for a season. Don’t feel bad for one second if you need to take a couple evenings a week to veg out and treat yourself to some quiet time. Wedding planning is no joke, and if the details don’t wear on you the decision-making will.
Don’t forget to soak it all in. THIS day that you marry THIS man will only happen once—remember that. Be mindful during every moment, every detail, every look, every embrace, every kiss. Former brides will tell you that their wedding days sped by faster than they could’ve ever anticipated. Keep your eyes on the love in the room. All those sweated details will fade into the distance. Because who really even remembers the colors of the tablecloths anyway?
Don’t forget the reason. “Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.” –Genesis 2:18
“But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently, And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has united (joined together), let not man separate or divide.” – Mark 10:6-9
Your wedding day is a symbol for the “oneness” created between you and your husband under God. It isn’t about the flowers, the hairstyles, the matching bridesmaid dresses, the music, or the strange family members that hide out in the corners of the banquet hall. The wedding budget, the design, and the white dress don’t make this day—you, your husband, and your union under the Lord do. Have dreams for a marriage more beautiful than your wedding.